Five Tips for Wedding Gift Thank You Notes

Did you forget about the wedding thank you notes? After all, you thought you were done…No more wedding dress alteration horrors. No more having to choose between crab cakes and mini quiches. No more worrying about who is going to keep your dad sane while your mom sits with her new husband. The honeymoon is over and you and your spouse can finally feel that relief that comes with knowing that you do not have to make any more wedding plans. Wrong.

One More Task – Wedding Thank You Notes

Even though much of the stress has passed, there is still one more important task: write wedding thank you notes. This task can indeed be taunting, as you may find yourself needing to fill a three by five space and addressing somebody you do not know, thanking for a gift you do not like, or making small talk with someone who did not attend the wedding. Fortunately, we have fivetips for writing great wedding thank you notes.

Keeping stationary, envelopes, pens, and stamps will help keep you focused on the thank you notes.

Keeping stationary, envelopes, pens, and stamps will help keep you focused on the wedding thank you notes.

Keeping Wedding Thank You Cards Organized

1. Nothing is more important than being organized. With sometimes up to a hundred gifts, all various sizes and values, it is essential that you know who got you want. We highly recommend making a spreadsheet and labeling the columns with the following information: a description of the gift, when you received the gift, the name of person who gave it, their address (get this from the invitation list), if they were at the wedding or not, any interaction they had with the person at the wedding, and an indication of whether or not the thank you card had been sent. Including these details will not only fillup the space, but will also make your guest feel appreciated! Keep the spreadsheet nearby and as soon as you open a present, immediately record the name of the person and the gift’s description. It may be tempting to just dig in and fill out information later, but staying organized will save you from hours of confusion.

Sending thank you notes a few at a time will make the task seem smaller and will help you not procrastinate.

Sending wedding thank you notes a few at a time will make the task seem smaller and will help you not procrastinate.


2. Send the wedding thank you notes as soon as possible Some say send them within a month of receiving the gift; others say a year. We do not know who came up with these guidelines, but the point is to be considerate. If you are using the spreadsheet wisely, it should be very easy to write a good thank you card and send it promptly. Prioritize who should receive wedding thank you cards first; the earlier the item is sent, the sooner the card should be sent. Likewise, if there are people that you are more likely to see, especially bosses and coworkers, ,make sure they receive the cards first. We like the idea of planning to write a few thank you notes a day. This keeps you busy without feeling completely swamped by the task.

Details and a sincere tone makes the best thank you cards.

Details and a sincere tone makes the best thank you cards.

3. It is better late than never. One bride has been married for over a year and now feels uncomfortable seeing certain people since she has yet to send them thank you notes. In turn, she sometimes avoids social situations. If this is you, relax! We have all committed faux pas. But most likely these people care about you, and would be happy with a card with something that says, “With all the excitement of our first year(s) of married life, we have neglected to give you a proper thank you. We are grateful for the (fill in item here) and have (explain how it has been used and enjoyed).” This creates a bridge between you and the giver and maybe can give you something to laugh at in the future!
It is a lot easier to have each spouse write thank you notes for their own guests.

It is a lot easier to have each spouse write wedding thank you notes for their own guests.


4. Divide and conquer Most likely, you are closer to some guests while your spouse is closer to other guests. If you each write the cards for the people with whom you are closer, the thank you notes will be a lot more personal and appreciated. Plus, splitting up the work makes the process faster and more fair.
Writing on a slope helps keep hand writing your thank you notes neat.

Writing on a slope helps keep hand writing your wedding thank you notes neat.


5. Use your best hand writing. Let’s be honest; our society does not value calligraphy the way our grandparents’ generation did; most everything is now typed. However, thank you cards should be hand printed and hand printed well. If you struggle with handwriting, try writing only a few at a time so as to prevent your hand from cramping. Also try writing on a slope, as this usually helps hand writing to appear more legible. The last thing you want is guests not being able to read your message!

A Final Thought on Wedding Thank You Cards

The best wedding thank you notes are sincere. Whether that is including a lot of details about the gift, or if it is expressing gratitude for their friendship, this is a great opportunity to show your appreciation for the giver.

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